Where would you place yourself in regards to your relationship with:
- Family? Friends? Teammates? Coaches? Classmates? GOD?
GRACE → |
Performance |
Grace & Truth |
Isolation |
Total Excess |
↑TRUTH
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What does it look like to be in the "performance" quadrant?
What does it look like to be in the "isolation" quadrant?
What does it look like to be in the "total excess" quadrant?
What does it look like to be in the "grace and truth" quadrant?
Some thoughts on the Truth & Grace Grid, by Jennifer Quiroa '09
How does where other people are in the grid affect you?
Where have you seen where you go in the grid affect your life? Relationships?
How would living in grace and truth change your life?
How is your relationship with GOD affected by where you go in the grid?
How is your relationship with others affected by where you go in the grid?
· Where in life do you or have you felt isolated?
· What would you need to have done to get out of this situation?
- What will it take to get out of similar situations in life?
· What would it take to move toward relationship?
· Can Christians be isolated?
· Is Christianity an antidote for isolation, and why?
· Have you ever felt isolated from GOD?
· In what circumstances do you feel isolated from GOD?
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Performance Tired fake praised oppressed best foot forward standards fearful unknown capable busy hard time saying no use others judgment frustrating plays the part controlling superficial relationships |
Grace and Truth Acceptance fullness of life freedom safe risk vulnerability known love free to fail in process purpose hopeful Real, vulnerable, life-giving relationships |
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Isolation painful comfortably numb disengaged alone sad peaceful unknown depressed safe no growth easy No relationships |
Total Excess Selfish disillusioned not accountable temporary freedom pleasure despairing self-hate above the law guilt shame empty unknown destructive and shallow relationships |
In each quadrant:
Describe a person.
How do others view them?
How do they feel?
Describe their relationships.
Do they experience acceptance.
How do they respond to failure?
How do they experience their limits?
How much grace do they experience?
How much truth do they experience?
How much growth do they experience?
How do they respond to authority? Responsibility? Love? Goals?
What does it cost to live here?
What is attractive about living here?
Which type of people do you desire relationship with?
How can you move towards grace and truth?
How do they view each other?
How do they experience bonding?
How do they see good in others? In themselves?
How do they see bad in others? In themselves?
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Performance Bonding – no vulnerability Good/Bad – judgment, based on other approval Boundaries – yes to good, resentment because they don’t see choice Adulthood – blame shifters |
Grace and Truth Bonding – vulnerable Good/Bad – accepting Boundaries – practice saying yes/no Adulthood – making connections |
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Isolation Bonding – scary, hopeless, don’t let good in Good/Bad – ideal/real split, no acceptance Boundaries –no identity, can’t receive love without y/n Adulthood – don’t see consequences, lack of choices |
Total Excess Bonding – none, loose connections Good/Bad – see all bad, pretend all good Boundaries – yes to bad, self-destructive Adulthood – blame shifters |